Books that have shaped my work.
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Complex PTSD & Trauma
Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems — Frank G. Anderson
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving — Pete Walker
The Complex PTSD Treatment Manual — Arielle Schwartz, PhD
The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of Blame — Pete Walker
When There Are No Words: Repairing Early Trauma and Neglect From the Attachment Period with EMDR Therapy — Sandra L Paulsen, PhD
Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma — Kathy L. Kain, PhD, and Stephen J. Terrell, PsyD
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture — Gabor MD, Daniel Mate
The Body Keeps Score: Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma — Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk
Healing Trauma by Dr. Peter Levine
Waking the Tiger — Dr. Peter Levine
Burnout: The Secret to Unloing the Stress Cycle — Emily Nagoski, PhD
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Attachment-Based & Trauma-Informed Parenting
Parenting from the Inside Out — Dan Siegel, MD
The Whole Brain Child — Dan Siegel, MD + Tina Payne Bryson, PhDNo Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame — Janet Julian
No-Drama Discipline — Dan Siegel, MD & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD
Simplicity Parenting — Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross
Attached at the Heart — Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker
Trauma-Proofing Your Kids by Maggie Kline and Dr. Peter A. Levine
Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes by Dr. Peter Levine and Maggie Kline
You are Your Child’s First Teacher by Rahima Baldwin Dancy
Parenting in the Present Moment — Carola Naumburg, PhD
The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of Infants and Children — Ed Tronick
The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust — Ed Tronick
Children’s Social and Emotional Development Starts with Co-regulation — National Institute for Children’s Health Quality
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Family Dysfunction, Emotionally Immature Parents, & Narcissistic Parenting
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents— Lindsay C. Gibson PhD
Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim your Emotional Autonomy — Lindsay C. Gibson PhD
Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role — Rebecca C. Mandeville MFT
Adult Children Secrets of Dysfunctional Families — John Friel and Linda Friel
The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People — Shahida Arabi, MA
It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People — Ramani Durvashula, PhD
The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love — Vienna Pharaon, LMFT
Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists — Shahida Arabi
Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut — Dr. Sherrie Campbell PhD
But It’s Your Family: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath — Dr. Sherrie Campbell PhD
Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life — Dr. Susan Forward
Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grown Up’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissic Parents by Nina W. Brown
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Childhood Abuse
Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity — Marie-France Hirigoyen
It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion —Beverly Engel, LMFT
Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse — Shannon Thomas, LCSW
Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse —Carolyn Ainscough and Kay Toon
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse — Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse —Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C
Healing Sex: A Mind Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines
I Never Told Anyone: Writings by Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse Edited — Ellen Bass and Louise Thornton
Cry the Darkness: One Woman’s Triumph Over the Tragedy of Incest by Donna Friess PhD
Family Secrets: The Path From Shame to Healing by John Bradshaw
Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts —Kenneth M. Adams, PhD, Mary E. Meyers, phD, LFMT, and Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW
Healing from Sexual Trauma: A Somatic Guided Therapy for Therapists and Adults Survivors —Genevieve Thorne MA LPC, Mable MMA PhD
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Poisonous Pedagogy & Hurtful Parenting
A Collection of Alice Miller’s Work:
The Drama of a Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self
The Untouched Key: Tracing Childhood Trauma in Creativity and Destructiveness
Breaking Down the Wall of Silence: Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth
Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society’s Betrayal of the Child
For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence
Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries
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Mother Wound
Mother’s Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters — Susan Forward, PhD
You’re Not Crazy It’s Your Mother: Freedom for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers —Danu Morrigan
The Emotionally Absent Mother: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect — Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC
Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self Doubt, and Live the Life you Deserve— Stephanie M. Kriesberg
Daughter Detox — Peg Streep
The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade — Ann Fessler
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Parts Work
Healing the Child Within by Charles L Witfield M.D Radical Acceptance of Everything — Ann Weiser Cornell
Greater than the Sum of Your Parts —Dr. Richard Schwartz
No Bad Parts — Richard Schwartz, PhD
Internal Family Systems Therapy with Children — Lisa Spiegel
Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual — Frank G. Anderson, MD, Martha Sweezy, PhD, Richard C. Schwartz, PhD
The Others Within Us — Robert Falconer
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Healthy Boundaries
Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Quality in Your Life and Relationships — Robert Alberti, PhD and Michael Emmons, PhD
When I say No, I feel Guilty — Manual J. Smith, PhD
Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover TawwabNon-violent Communication —Marshall B Ronsebergy, PhD
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General Grief and Healing
Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief — Joanne Cacciatore
The After Grief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss — Hope Edelman
It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand — Megan Devine
How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief — Megan Devine
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief — Francis Weller
Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair — Miriam Greenspan
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, David Kessler
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief — David Kessler
Hope and Help for Your Nerves — Claire Weekes
Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions — James W. Pennebaker
Saying Goodbye — Zoe Clark-Coates
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Pregnancy & Infant loss
Stillborn Still Loved — Hailey Ricks
Rebirth: The Journey of Pregnancy After Loss — Joey Miller, MSW LCSW
You're the Only One I've Told: Stories Behind Abortion — Dr. Meera Shah
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart — Deborah Davis
You Are the Mother of All Mothers: A Message of Hope for the Grieving Heart — Angela Miller
A Gift of Time — Amy Kuebelbeck and Deborah Davis PhD
Waiting for Gabriel — Amy Kuebelbeck
Birth Story Held for Loss — Emily Souder
To Tend & To Hold — Eileen S. Rosete
Growing Up in Heaven: The Eternal Connection Between Parent and Child — James Van Praagh
Finding Hope When a Child Dies: What Other Cultures Can Teach Us — Sukie Miller
Three Minus One: Stories of Parents' Love and Loss — Edited by Sean Hanish and Brooke Warner
There Was Supposed to Be A Baby: A Guide to Healing After Pregnancy Loss — Catherine Noblitt Keating
Stillborn: The Invisible Death — John Defrain
They Were Still Born: Personal Stories About Stillbirth — Janel Atlas
Almost a Mother — Christy Wompat
Unexpecting: Real Talk on Pregnancy Loss — Rachel Lewis
From the Lake House: A Mother's Odyssey of Loss and Love — Kristen Rademacher
The Still Point of the Turning World — Emily Rapp Black
An Exact Replica of A Figment of My Imagination — Elizabeth McCracken
I’m Sorry for My Loss — Rebecca Little and Colleen Long
Conquering Infertility — Alice Domar
The Infertility Workbook — Barbara Blitzer
The Infertility Survival Handbook — Elizabeth Swire-Falker
Grieving Dads: To The Brink and Back — Kelly Farley with David Dicola
When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help — Elizabeth Levang
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Spirituality, Soul Journeys, and the Afterlife
Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life Between Lives — Michael Newton
Life Between Lives: Hypnotherapy for Spiritual Regression — Michael Newton
Many Lives, Many Masters — Brian L. Weiss
The Instruction: Living the Life Your Soul Intended — Ainslie Macleod
Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born — Robert Schwartz
The Light Between Us — Laura Lynne Jackson
Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe — Laura Lynne Jackson
Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon’s Near-Death Experience and Journey into the Afterlife — Eben Alexander
Dying to Know You: Proof of God in the Near-Death Experience — P.M.H. Atwater
Across Time and Death: A Mother’s Search for Her Past Life Children — Jenny Cockell
Spirit Babies: How to Communicate With the Child You Were Meant to Have — Walter Makichen